Sweet February Twenty Nine! –
This our grace-year, as I live!
Quick, now! this foolish heart of mine:
Seize thy prerogative!
– Walter de la Mare
Time is passing fast and furious.
I have barely taken a breathe from the Christmas holiday, I can still vividly remember buying presents, cooking the turkey and then putting away the Christmas decorations as if was just yesterday, and yet here we are, February already; and January had 5 weeks too! Where has the time gone?!!!
Well anyway February is known for being the lurve month, because of St Valentine’s Day which of course falls due on the 14th of this month.
Did you know?
The gemstone connected with February is the Amethyst which is a symbol of wit and health.
The month’s colour is ‘Dark Blue’
February, being the love month – which better time is it to talk about love and its many aspects!
Love is one of those things that is so hard to fathom, to define, so hard to maintain, so hard to be consistent with. Love is happiness, love is bitterness, love is sadness, love is loathing, love is completeness, love is…. love is…
To start our love month, we shall ask ourselves one of the most important question that needed answering and fast before it is too late …
Below was from a Facebook timeline
ARE YOU WITH THE RIGHT PARTNER?
During a seminar, a woman asked,” How do I know if I am with the right person?”
The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, “It depends. Is that your partner?” In all seriousness, she answered “How do you know?” Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it’s weighing on your mind
replied the author.
Here’s the answer.
Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you
fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls,
want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn’t hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn’t have to DO anything. That’s why it’s called “falling” in love.
People in love sometimes say, “I was swept of my feet.”Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.
Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It’s a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.
Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse’s idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.
At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, “Am I with the right person?” And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you
may begin to desire that experience with someone
else. This is when relationships breakdown.
The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the person you found.
People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.
Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it.
I’m not saying that you couldn’t fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you’d feel better. But you’d be in the same situation a few years later.
Because (listen carefully to this):
The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the Person you found.
SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know
WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it.
Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), Just as there are physical laws Of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.
Love is therefore a “decision”. Not just a feeling.
Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO!
NOTABLE EVENTS IN FEBRUARY
1 February 1884, the very first edition of the Oxford English dictionary was published.
9 February 1962, Jamaica became independent!
10 February 1884, Queen Victoria and Prince Albert tied the knot.
11 February 1929, Vatican City was created as a standalone independent state.
13 February 1888, the first issue of the Financial Times came out.
14 February 1929, this day became known as the infamous St Valentine’s Day Massacre, which happened in Chicago.
16 February 1937, we’ve got nylon! It was this day that it was patented.
18 February 1979, it snowed at the Sahara Desert.
22 February 1997, ‘Dolly’ the sheep was cloned.