Never Love Unless
By Thomas Campion
1567–1620Never love unless you canBear with all the faults of man:Men sometimes will jealous beThough but little cause they see;And hang the head, as discontent,And speak what straight they will repent.Men that but one saint adoreMake a show of love to more.Beauty must be scorned in none,Though but truly served in one:For what is courtship but disguise?True hearts may have dissembling eyes.Men, when their affairs require,Must awhile themselves retire;Sometimes hunt, and sometimes hawk,And not ever sit and talk.If these and such-like you can bear,Then like, and love, and never fear!
I think Campion was saying that a man can be hard to love because of his innate nature.
A man can be jealous even without reason to. He would be rather upset with his jealousy and would apologise and be full of shame upon realising the iniquities of his unfound thoughts.
Although a man adores his girlfriend/wife/partner, his eyes will continue to wander because intrinsically a man is a connoisseur of beauty.
But it does not mean he will act on his admiration. To him looking at beautiful women is like looking at the finer points of a masterpiece, nothing else.
A man will do anything but talk. They would rather be doing something else than have a heart to heart. A man is a living breathing action figure who would not choose to sit around discussing his psyche and inner feelings. 😉
So to be able to live with a man in peace and contentment, a woman must truly love him with his faults and all.